Cheta Umeh, the brother-in-law of dancer and singer Kora Obidi, has fired back at critics mocking him for staying home with his children while his wife, Nancy Umeh, travels abroad for work
In a lengthy post, Cheta addressed those calling him a “houseboy,” stressing that there is no shame in holding down the home front while his wife pursues business opportunities.
“Response to Critics: I am GLAD to be a ‘HOUSEBOY’,” he declared.
According to him, earlier this year, he and his wife traveled to China for business and leisure, where they shared insights about global systems. However, while Nancy later traveled to the UK and the US for work, social media users ridiculed him for staying back with the kids.
Cheta insisted that such criticism is baseless because real love and leadership require supporting one’s partner’s growth.
“But let me be clear—there is nothing shameful in standing by your family. If you truly love the so-called woman and family, encourage their growth. I am proud of the fact that in my absence or hers, our home does not collapse,” he wrote.
He further explained that his marriage runs on a partnership model that gives him peace of mind.
“I don’t have to worry about her asking me for makeup, chewing gum, pad, food money, or every household need because we built a system where both of us can carry the weight. That gives me a lot of peace of mind.”
Cheta also emphasized that his wife’s success does not threaten him but instead strengthens their family’s future.
“If anything happens to me tomorrow, my family will not suffer or wallow in want or despair. My wife will not be confused and start asking my friends to please help her to pay our children’s school fees. That is leadership. That is foresight. That is love.”
He added that a man who truly loves his wife should see her upliftment as a blessing, not a threat.
“I am not threatened by my wife’s success; in fact, her upliftment is my joy. If she makes all the money in the world, that is a blessing to our home, not a curse. What matters to me is her growth, because when she rises, our children and our future rise too.”
Ending his note, Cheta challenged those mocking him to self-reflect.
“So, before you mock a man for supporting his wife’s dream, ask yourself: what kind of woman did you marry? What kind of insecurity is inside of you? Search your conscience. To me, this is not weakness. This is wisdom. This is love. And this is family. I have seen the light.”
He signed off humorously as a proud member of the “finished men association,” also known as “Brocode.”
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