Reader’s Mail: I’m Still Struggling To Let Go

It’s been three years since I got married to my wife, and
the problem I have is that I am still struggling to forgive her.

Before my wife and I got married three years ago, we had
series of arguments and disagreements over what her exact bride price should
be. I went through hell in the hands of her family members, but even that
didn’t hurt me as much as what my wife did or did not do.

I raised objection several times due to the fact that her
parents were milking me dry. I sold a couple of things to marry her then, and
it still amazes me that she encouraged me to sell one of my cars, and asked for
a loan from my bank.

The problem I have is that I keep bringing up our pre-marriage
issues each time we argue. I want to stop because it hurts her deeply, but find
out that I can’t.

Please help me Ladun.