Reality TV star and actress Ese Eriata has slammed social media user who mocked women for having children out of wedlock
The drama started after a follower wrote, “Every girl just dey born anyhow without being married, mmmh,” implying that many women now give birth without marriage.
Ese, clearly irritated by the remark, fired back with a lengthy response defending women’s choices and circumstances. She stressed that not every woman’s journey is the same and that people should learn to stop judging what they don’t understand.
“In as much as marriage is a good thing, some people don’t think or wonder why a person chose a certain path. You don’t know my past, you don’t know if I have trauma or been abused, you don’t know if I have trust or anger issues I’m trying to heal from.
You don’t know if I’m taking my time to study who I want to end up with, you don’t know if there’s something I’m waiting for to click before I say yes I want to marry, you don’t know my fears and worries, you don’t know if I’m mentally ready.
You don’t know if I’m still working on myself to be someone’s peace and trophy. All y’all want to do is get on that keypad and type rubbish because commenting is free so you step on your brain before typing. Mad people everywhere.”
She also pointed out the hypocrisy in how society treats women, noting that they are judged no matter what they do.
“You’ll hear them shouting, ‘Once you are 30+ and no husband just have your kids.’ When you go ahead to have kids, they’ll say, ‘Where is the father? Oh no husband, hmmm single mother.’
When you choose to wait on the Lord and now clock 40+, they’ll say, ‘As beautiful as you are, you don’t even have at least one child even if you didn’t see husband.’
When God finally brings love or a husband, you’ll hear, ‘The guy didn’t see younger girls, what is he doing with a single mother?’”
Ese added that what amazes her the most is that most of these harsh comments come from women.
Her message has since sparked conversations online, with many applauding her for boldly addressing the social stigma surrounding unmarried women who have children.
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