Jennifer Lopez says Ben Affleck divorce forced her to figure herself out

When on the podcast Smartless, the 56-year-old singer shared with hosts Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes and Will Arnett that she realized after Affleck she needed a new way to cope with her problems.

‘The person I am today is so different than the person I was even two years ago, it’s crazy.

And now I can really look at my life, appreciate it for what it is and what I’ve created for myself and be really happy,’ she shared.

After blaming others for her 40 years of back-to-back heartbreak – with Marc Anthony, Cris Judd and Alex Rodriguez, among others – she decided to look ‘inside’ for answers.

The Office Romance actress admitted it was difficult for her to be so introspective but she needed to “‘f***ing figure myself out.”‘

‘You need to figure yourself out,’ she said on the podcast as she said her healing journey included her wanting to stop ‘looking for love in other things.’

‘Everybody needs to do that at some point in your life. It’s part of being human,’ Lopez said.

At times she felt ‘like my life blew up in my own face,’ she said.

‘It was because of the choices I made, but also because of the fact that I had things that needed to change about myself that I didn’t understand or recognize that was attracting certain things and attracting a certain type of experience into my life,’ she noted.

‘So, I want to give myself that credit too, but there comes a point where it’s all so puzzling and wrong where you have to sit there,’ she said.

‘And after my last divorce, I just sat there and I was like, I canceled my tour and I sat there and I was just like, “You need to f***ing figure yourself out. What is going on with you? Forget about everybody else. There’s nobody to blame here except yourself, in a certain way.”‘

Lopez shared that she asked herself what her life was like now.

‘The past twenty years, it’s been one thing, the past five years has been a tumult, and then the last two years has been kind of the healing process from that tumult where I really got to know myself,’ she said.

The star has walked down the aisle four times with Affleck, Marc Anthony, Cris Judd and Ojani Noa.

And she was engaged to former baseball player Rodriguez.