Tricia Eseigbe for the first time and her husband have spoken
at length about their 6-year old marriage. Tricia who says she is enjoying her
marriage however said something most women of this generation would dare not
do- Tricia has a joint bank account with her husband! In a not too long
interview, the couple explains how they met, fell in love, and how they have
been coping with each other to Punch.
at length about their 6-year old marriage. Tricia who says she is enjoying her
marriage however said something most women of this generation would dare not
do- Tricia has a joint bank account with her husband! In a not too long
interview, the couple explains how they met, fell in love, and how they have
been coping with each other to Punch.
How did you meet your wife?
Kingsley: Our first meeting was in 1999 on the set of a
movie called Live Wire. I was the director of the movie while she was the lead
character. While on set, we developed a friendship which we sustained even
after the movie was completed. When the time was right, we got married.
movie called Live Wire. I was the director of the movie while she was the lead
character. While on set, we developed a friendship which we sustained even
after the movie was completed. When the time was right, we got married.
What attracted you to each other?
Tricia: His personality, ideology and love for God. I always
prayed to God for a man that I would be able to relate with. Looking at our
professional and private lives, we had a lot in common so it was easy to become
attracted to him.
prayed to God for a man that I would be able to relate with. Looking at our
professional and private lives, we had a lot in common so it was easy to become
attracted to him.
Kingsley: I became attracted to her when we met because she
knows what she wants out of life. She has been my best friend and rock all
through the years.
knows what she wants out of life. She has been my best friend and rock all
through the years.
How long did you date before you got married?
Kingsley: We were friends for a long time, so it was not
really necessary to date for too long before we got married.
really necessary to date for too long before we got married.
How did he propose to you and how did you feel when he did?
Tricia:He proposed in a private and mature way, no drama or
fuss; it was just simple and classic. I was very happy just like any woman
would be. It is always a dream come true when a man proposes to a single woman.
fuss; it was just simple and classic. I was very happy just like any woman
would be. It is always a dream come true when a man proposes to a single woman.
Was there any opposition from family members?
Kingsley: There was nothing like that. Our families have
always been supportive.
always been supportive.
How would you describe your marriage?
Tricia: Blissful and I am very grateful to God because
marriage has been very good to me. I could not have wished for a better man to
be my husband. I thank God for his life and our marriage. My union has drawn me
closer to God.
marriage has been very good to me. I could not have wished for a better man to
be my husband. I thank God for his life and our marriage. My union has drawn me
closer to God.
Did you set out to marry someone in your industry?
Tricia: I wanted to marry a good man and wished for God’s
will to be perfected in my life. That I am married to someone in my industry is
God’s making and not mine.
will to be perfected in my life. That I am married to someone in my industry is
God’s making and not mine.
What would you like to change about each other?
Kingsley: Nothing. We are good the way we are and doing
great. We are getting better by the day. Like they say, when it’s not broken,
do not try and fix things.
great. We are getting better by the day. Like they say, when it’s not broken,
do not try and fix things.
Tricia: I wanted my marriage to be built around our
religious beliefs and that is what we have done. Also, there is nothing to
change when you marry a man you have a lot in common with. We are fine the way
we are and I thank God for that; we can only get better by His grace.
religious beliefs and that is what we have done. Also, there is nothing to
change when you marry a man you have a lot in common with. We are fine the way
we are and I thank God for that; we can only get better by His grace.
Do you have access to each other’s phones and social media
accounts?
accounts?
Kingsley: Yes, we do. We do not hide anything from each
other. We are very transparent with our phones and details of our social media
accounts.
other. We are very transparent with our phones and details of our social media
accounts.
Tricia: He has all the passwords and so do I. At any time,
we can access these accounts and know what is trending in our lives. It is
encouraging to do that because it helps to build trust.
we can access these accounts and know what is trending in our lives. It is
encouraging to do that because it helps to build trust.
How do you spend time together?
Kingsley: When we are not working, we spend time together
outdoors and this usually happens on Sundays, after church service.
outdoors and this usually happens on Sundays, after church service.
What common hobbies do you share?
Tricia: I love football as much as he does. We like to chat,
educate ourselves and share experiences to mention but a few. We enjoy doing
things together.
educate ourselves and share experiences to mention but a few. We enjoy doing
things together.
Do you operate a joint bank account?
Kingsley: Yes, we have a joint account.
Do you get jealous of your wife’s male fans?
Kingsley: No, I don’t because it’s normal for her to have
male fans. I do not get jealous or encourage people to because it’s unnecessary
and only brings about negative energy in a relationship.
male fans. I do not get jealous or encourage people to because it’s unnecessary
and only brings about negative energy in a relationship.
Has marriage affected your acting career in any way?
Tricia: My love for acting is evergreen and I really haven’t
been featuring in movies because I am actively engaged with other things. In
the last few years, I have shot and produced some. In the near future, I will
create time to act in movies because my husband is willing to produce more
movies which I will take part in. For now, I have other commitments that have
prevented me from acting. It has nothing to do with my marriage.
been featuring in movies because I am actively engaged with other things. In
the last few years, I have shot and produced some. In the near future, I will
create time to act in movies because my husband is willing to produce more
movies which I will take part in. For now, I have other commitments that have
prevented me from acting. It has nothing to do with my marriage.
How have you managed to stay happy and together as a couple
despite the high failure rate of celebrity marriages?
despite the high failure rate of celebrity marriages?
Kingsley: I don’t believe marriages fail because of status
or profession, it is always about the individuals; their feelings at the time,
Are they happy or not? Do they want to address and fix their concerns or
challenges? If yes, they will try and make it work.
or profession, it is always about the individuals; their feelings at the time,
Are they happy or not? Do they want to address and fix their concerns or
challenges? If yes, they will try and make it work.
The secret to our happiness is simply God and we invested
more time in understanding of His word because it is a manual on its own. If
you fear, respect and honour God’s words and commandments, you can only get it
right in a relationship.
more time in understanding of His word because it is a manual on its own. If
you fear, respect and honour God’s words and commandments, you can only get it
right in a relationship.
How do you handle disagreements?
Kingsley: There will always be differences in opinion and
approach to situations. We try not to get into an argument or quarrel so we try
to talk in a civilised manner. We also devise a medium to address issues within
a reasonable time. We do not bear grudges and do not invite a third party to
settle misunderstandings.
approach to situations. We try not to get into an argument or quarrel so we try
to talk in a civilised manner. We also devise a medium to address issues within
a reasonable time. We do not bear grudges and do not invite a third party to
settle misunderstandings.
Tricia: Communication in a marriage is important. If you
don’t ask and get an answer from your partner, your imagination may run wild
and the devil will take advantage of your confused state of mind. It is better
to approach your partner and get the right answers.
don’t ask and get an answer from your partner, your imagination may run wild
and the devil will take advantage of your confused state of mind. It is better
to approach your partner and get the right answers.
What pet names do you call each other?
Tricia:I have a special pet name for him and he has one for
me as well which we will not disclose. We have decided to keep these names to
ourselves, its fun that way.
me as well which we will not disclose. We have decided to keep these names to
ourselves, its fun that way.
Has marriage deprived you of your freedom?
Tricia: No, it has not. Marriage is not a prison, so I still
have my freedom to do whatever I like doing. We are in it together to support
and enhance each other.My husband promised to allow me to do whatever I want
and he has kept to his words.
have my freedom to do whatever I like doing. We are in it together to support
and enhance each other.My husband promised to allow me to do whatever I want
and he has kept to his words.
What are the secrets to a lasting union?
Kingsley: Understanding each other’s values and the ideas
you place in the relationship. The highest premium is building your
relationship around God. A true believer knows how to behave and this will
reflect in everything they do, even in their relationship.
you place in the relationship. The highest premium is building your
relationship around God. A true believer knows how to behave and this will
reflect in everything they do, even in their relationship.
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