A Message For Unmarried Ladies

Found this on Rachael’s blog and I think most single ladies
would want to read this. Enjoy.

My fellow unmarried women, it’s not that I have a vendetta
against you; I just want to address some of the things you do, which I think
are supremely silly. Yes, I’m ranting about the unmarried women today. This
post is targeted at, but not limited to desperate unmarried women.

I know that marriage has always been an important thing for
many women, but the race for it today is becoming so bad, it’s almost diabolic.
Yes, many women are doing all sorts of infernal things to get stay married.
Young woman that wants to get married, pause a bit and ask yourself this
important question: why do I want to get married?

I ask you to do this because your reason for getting married
may very well determine the kind of man you hook up with. If you want to be
happy in your union, you’ll carefully and prayerfully choose a spouse. But if
you want to be married because all your friends are, or because your family
thinks so or because society says your clock is ticking, you may very well end
up making the wrong choice. Such as a man that abuses you-be it physically,
verbally, emotionally or psychologically.

No matter what you say, there are always signs of an abuser,
whether he’s a budding or full-blown practitioner of the punching, verbal or
emotional slicing arts.

When a man makes you stay on a video chat for 24 hours, just
so that he can see where you are at all times, he’s an abuser. Please don’t
tell me that “he’s just a bit jealous” or “you know men are like that”….that’s
not “a bit” of jealousy and not all men are like that!

When a man makes you take pictures of yourself and send it
to him 24 hours a day, so he knows where and who you’re with, my sister you’re
in bondage…..only that your master hasn’t paid your purchase price. Any man
that makes you do this, under the guise that his heart has been broken by the
previous women in his life and therefore, you need to earn his trust, is a
confirmed wizard. He needs Jesus and you need a copy of the Slavery Abolition
Act of 1833.

When a man flings objects at you during an argument, throws
and breaks his phone against the wall and says “Look what you made me do,” he
will one day throw you and blame you for it. You’d better run away and from
that far distance, text him the number of a psychiatrist and enrol him for an
anger management course.

When a man tells you that once you get married, because his
mother did it, you too will pound yam for him while you’re nine months
pregnant, wash his car, feed your three children and drop them off at school,
clean the house, do the family laundry, go shopping etc. without help of any
sort, I’ll only say this: are you familiar with the letters R.U.N?

When you’re in a relationship with a man who arbitrarily
picks up your phone, deletes some male contacts, text messages, grills you
whenever you pick a call from a man, logs into your Facebook account and abuses
and warns off all the men who say nice things to you, tells you which friends
to keep and the ones to dismiss, and short of getting you a bodyguard, monitors
your movements in every way possible, I’d like to inform you that that man is
not man who loves you, but a monitoring, familiar spirit. The earlier you’re
delivered from him, the better for you.

Having said that, I’d like to add that some of this kind of
men can smell desperation and know that there’s little or nothing you can or
would want to do to them.

So my advice to you dear prospective bride, is build your
self-esteem, be proud of who you are, be picky (yes, contrary to popular
opinion, you don’t have to drag the bottom of the barrel), and know that you
deserve a good man. Take your time; because once you make your choice, you’re
stuck with him. Don’t be in haste- for where the hare gets to by running, the
tortoise will arrive there by walking.