When her hubby of ten years had to spend Christmas with his
relatives in Nigeria, Tracy Akingbogun hoped he’d return with a special gift to
make up for their time apart. David, 43, had sorted out a present for himself.
He had secretly Married another woman in Nigeria on Boxing Day.
Heartbroken Tracy, also 43, says: “While I was at home with
the kids missing him at Christmas, his present to himself was a new bride. “I
still can’t believe he did that to us after more than ten years together. I did
some research and saw that the ceremony was a religious one and not a legal
one. So he hadn’t committed bigamy. His dad had five wives during his lifetime,
so I suppose David thought he could do that too. But not when he was living in
the UK and not when he was married to me.”
the kids missing him at Christmas, his present to himself was a new bride. “I
still can’t believe he did that to us after more than ten years together. I did
some research and saw that the ceremony was a religious one and not a legal
one. So he hadn’t committed bigamy. His dad had five wives during his lifetime,
so I suppose David thought he could do that too. But not when he was living in
the UK and not when he was married to me.”
Tracy, from Gravesend, Kent, adds: “This Christmas it will
be just me and the children again, just like it was last year. But this time
I’ll be over the moon that David isn’t with us.”
be just me and the children again, just like it was last year. But this time
I’ll be over the moon that David isn’t with us.”
With his Nigerian wife
Tracy was a single mum to Cameron and Alysia, now 17 and 13
when she met David in a nightclub while she was on a rare night out in March
2004.
when she met David in a nightclub while she was on a rare night out in March
2004.
She recalls: “I was watching a group of lads on the pull,
but one of them wasn’t. He was just leaning against the bar enjoying himself.
He saw me watching him and came over to chat. His name was David and he was
really kind and gentle. He’d only arrived from Nigeria three months before.”
but one of them wasn’t. He was just leaning against the bar enjoying himself.
He saw me watching him and came over to chat. His name was David and he was
really kind and gentle. He’d only arrived from Nigeria three months before.”
David moved into Tracy’s home just six weeks later and Tracy
was delighted to discover she was pregnant. Their son Kayodo, now 11, was born
in December 2004 and they married two months later.
was delighted to discover she was pregnant. Their son Kayodo, now 11, was born
in December 2004 and they married two months later.
Tracy says: “It was a small ceremony with a few family and
friends. David read out a poem and told me he really believed in me and our
future together. “From then on he called me ‘Wifey,’ his pet name for me.”
friends. David read out a poem and told me he really believed in me and our
future together. “From then on he called me ‘Wifey,’ his pet name for me.”
The next year the happy family went to Nigeria to meet
David’s relatives. Tracy says: “They were lovely to us and even went through
the traditional ceremony of washing our feet when we arrived.”
David’s relatives. Tracy says: “They were lovely to us and even went through
the traditional ceremony of washing our feet when we arrived.”
Their second son Olalekan, now four, was born in December
2011.
2011.
Tracy busied herself bringing up her brood while David
turned his hand to various businesses from buying and selling cars to running a
market-stall. He also tried to set up an internet cafe. But two years later she
found messages between David and a Nigerian woman.
turned his hand to various businesses from buying and selling cars to running a
market-stall. He also tried to set up an internet cafe. But two years later she
found messages between David and a Nigerian woman.
Tracy says: “One read: ‘When you were last here I wish I’d
kissed you.’ I shouted at him, and wanted him to explain himself.
kissed you.’ I shouted at him, and wanted him to explain himself.
“He said she was someone he used to date before he came to
the UK. He said it was nothing, they were just friends. I told David it was her
or me. He said it was me, I was his wifey and that was that. Over the next few
months he tried hard to show he meant it and we got back to normal.”
the UK. He said it was nothing, they were just friends. I told David it was her
or me. He said it was me, I was his wifey and that was that. Over the next few
months he tried hard to show he meant it and we got back to normal.”
Then David announced he would have to go to Nigeria over the
2014 festive period. Tracy says: “I was furious. I told him he should be here
for his sons for our family. He kept insisting he had important family
business.”
2014 festive period. Tracy says: “I was furious. I told him he should be here
for his sons for our family. He kept insisting he had important family
business.”
David flew out the day before Christmas Eve and Tracy was
upset the family would be apart.
upset the family would be apart.
She says: “I was so angry with him, but I wasn’t going to
let the children know that. It was Christmas so I was going to make it a good
one.”
let the children know that. It was Christmas so I was going to make it a good
one.”
She messaged David, reminding him to call their boys on
Christmas morning.
Christmas morning.
Tracy says: “David finally called at 9pm. I gave him an
earful but let him speak to the children. I was so angry with him.
earful but let him speak to the children. I was so angry with him.
“On Boxing Day I didn’t hear from him, but I spoke to him
and his family the next day and they were all friendly and normal.”
and his family the next day and they were all friendly and normal.”
But, on David’s return, Tracy felt something had changed.
She says: “When he wasn’t away working he was on his laptop.
He was hardly speaking to me or the boys. I would encourage him to spend time
with them, but he’d snap at me and say he was busy.”
He was hardly speaking to me or the boys. I would encourage him to spend time
with them, but he’d snap at me and say he was busy.”
Tracy tried to make her family life as happy as possible but
in May came a bolt out of the blue. She got a message on Facebook from the
partner of one of David’s friends in Nigeria, a woman Tracy had met when she
visited.
in May came a bolt out of the blue. She got a message on Facebook from the
partner of one of David’s friends in Nigeria, a woman Tracy had met when she
visited.
She says: “The message read that he’d got married to another
woman on Boxing Day, everyone knew apart
from me. She didn’t think that was right.
woman on Boxing Day, everyone knew apart
from me. She didn’t think that was right.
“The world I loved had been whipped from beneath my feet.
Tears streamed down my face. I’d known something was up.
Tears streamed down my face. I’d known something was up.
“I confronted David but he denied it. He seemed so cool and
calm. So I messaged her and said there must be a mistake.”
calm. So I messaged her and said there must be a mistake.”
What came next wiped away any trace of doubt Tracy had.
Tearfully, she recalls: “She ended up sending me photos of
the wedding ceremony via WhatsApp and confirmed it to me. There was no denying
that.”
the wedding ceremony via WhatsApp and confirmed it to me. There was no denying
that.”
Shaking, Tracy managed to guess his Facebook password and
logged in. There, she read messages between him and his new wife, the woman
she’d caught him messaging two years before, who was also his ex-girlfriend.
logged in. There, she read messages between him and his new wife, the woman
she’d caught him messaging two years before, who was also his ex-girlfriend.
Tracy says: “I was so angry I couldn’t speak. He couldn’t
get married, he was my husband!
get married, he was my husband!
“I confronted him and he tried to deny it again but this
time I told him I’d seen the photos and read the messages. I told him to pack
his bags and get out.
time I told him I’d seen the photos and read the messages. I told him to pack
his bags and get out.
“I don’t take calls from his family, as they were in on this
and went to his wedding last Boxing Day while lying to me.
and went to his wedding last Boxing Day while lying to me.
“He abandoned his children and me to get married to another
woman. He’s made his choice and now he’s stuck with it.”
woman. He’s made his choice and now he’s stuck with it.”
David said: “I can do what I want. It’s nobody’s business.
What do you want me to do?”, she concluded.
What do you want me to do?”, she concluded.
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