How I Have Been Able To Sustain My Marriage For 4 Years- Mercy Johnson Reveals

In this new interview with
Leadership Newspaper, actress Mercy Johnson has explained how she has been able
to manage her marriage for four years without crisis. She also spoke about her
first day at her husband’s house and how he asked her to cook to her greatest
surprise and how she had to remind him she was MECRY JOHNSON. It’s an
interesting interview, enjoy;

There is a general notion that
actresses do not make good wives. Do you agree with this submission?

Well, I can only speak from my own
perspective and when I say my perspective, I mean from my personal experiences,
marriage and relationship with my husband. One of the biggest lies anyone can
tell himself/herself is using one or more random experiences to judge and
stereotype others. We all have our different stories to tell.

I have two children for my husband
today and he has not stopped talking about how down-to-earth I was yet I am an
actress; not just any actresses. I had a large following at that time yet I did
not go around pouting my lips or playing the snub. My husband later confessed
to me that for him, it was love at first sight but that did not stop him from
asking me to cook for him the first day I set foot in his house.

At first, I was stunned that a
Nigerian man was asking me to enter his kitchen to cook him a meal. A part of
me whispered to me that perhaps, he was not aware of who I was and when I said
to him: ‘You must be joking. My name is Mercy Johnson’. What shocked me even
more was his response when he said: ‘I know’. Rather than take offence, I was
drawn closer to him.

We have been married since 2011
and we love each other to bits till date and have consciously decided to spend
the rest of our lives together. As I said earlier, I am an actress who is
correcting the rigid stand that actresses cannot have happy homes when they get
married. Also, bear in mind that there are several Nigerian actresses like me
who are happily married. Having a happy marriage is a choice a woman has to
make. When you decide to have a happy marriage, you focus your thoughts,
actions, words, work and everything else around protecting that happiness.

On the high divorce rate among
celebrities, she replied

In marriage, you must have trust
and you must also have love. The moment you lose these two, then it is just a
matter of time before you embark on a calamitous countdown towards the end of
your marriage. My relationship with my husband has been very special. He is not
just my husband or father of my children. He is my friend.

She also spoke about  the secrets 
to the stability of her marriage;

I don’t even have to think about
it. It is honesty. I remember the words of my pastor to me even before we got
married. He advised me never to have a marriage built on lies and I listened. I
don’t lie to my husband. We have agreed to tell the truth to each other
regardless of how painful or scary it might be. I remember one instance when I
found myself crying when I had to tell him the truth. That day, I had attended
an event wearing a lovely dress that had a slit but unfortunately, at that
event, the paparazzi captured a wrong image of me. I picked up my phone and I
don’t think I have to tell you who I called first. My husband, of course, and
guess what? I was crying and sobbing even before I started talking to him
because I felt really bad about it. Rather than lie to him, I told him the
complete truth and it helped in no small measure. I remember him asking how bad
it was and I remember telling him that it was really bad. I sent him the photo
and he consoled me. That is what a husband who is also a friend does. He did
not rub it in my face, insult me, make me feel bad or dent my self-esteem. He
was there for me when I needed him and he has not stopped till date. This is
one of the reasons I do not hide anything from him. He loves me just as
passionately and as fiercely as I love him and I have no doubt in my mind that
our marriage was ordained. God had a hand in it and that is why everything just
works out between us. That is the only thing I can consider the secret of our
love story, which continues to blossom. I have two children, an amazing husband
and millions of fans who have held my back over the years and of course, God
who has watched over my affairs from the very first day I arrived in this world
till this moment.