Ifedayo Agoro has questioned why people are quick to blame the husbands of successful women whenever they disagree with something their wives say or do.
Speaking about the criticism surrounding Real Warri Pikin after she jumped at singer Timaya at a show, The entrepreneur said she finds it strange that people expect her husband to publicly condemn her, “put her in check” or even leave the marriage simply because strangers online disapprove of her actions.
In a post she shared on her page, she said:
“I have a question. Why is it important to some of you that when a woman does something you don’t approve of, and her husband supports her, the man is suddenly weak, is a s!mp, and you expect her to be punished for it?
“I’m just looking at people reacting to Real Warri Pikin, and I’m wondering, what’s going on here? Why is it that whenever a successful woman says something to the internet and they don’t like it or they don’t approve of it, they start looking at her husband?
“You should put her in check. You should leave her. What kind of woman is that? I’m sorry for her husband. He’s a s!mp. He’s weak.’
“Do you genuinely believe that this successful woman marries rubb!sh men? How are you dictating to another man what to accept in his own marriage?
“Why are you embarrassing yourself? I have even experienced this. You are embarrassing yourself by sending DMs to people’s husbands, telling them, ‘I’m sorry for you, the marriage you are in, you should leave your wife.
“Who do you think you are? You are typing a whole paragraph to somebody’s husband about the marriage that you are not inside. Imagine the audacity.
“And there’s this part I find particularly interesting. Why do you want the woman to suffer for her actions that you don’t like? What exactly will happen to her that will satisfy you?
“Her husband leaving her? She deactivates her Instagram and never posts for a long time? Her husband should embarrass her publicly, or he should come online and complain to you so that internet strangers can clap for him?
“What exactly are your expectations? All of you mob, all you want is to see the woman suffer. Why does her suff£ring matter to you so much?
“Because throughout my adult life, I’ve never seen somebody who is genuinely happy with their own lives advocate for another woman’s suff£ring.
“Who told you that this husband that you’re calling weak and simp are not the real backbones of their wife? Who told you that they’re not happy? Did they come and explain to you that their marriage is in cr!s!s?
“How arrogant of you to make such assumptions. Who told you that this man is not happy in his marriage? Why is that possibility not even available to you?
“I know why. It’s because some of you cannot fathom the possibility of ever being with a powerful woman. The kind of woman we like are the ones where you can repress and dominate her life because that’s the only validation of masculinity.
“From time immemorial, successful women have had happy marriages despite noise from the outside, especially noise from people who don’t matter.
Listen, I know you already know this, but I’ll tell you anyway. You are just a ranting internet stranger. Your vote in how successful their marriage is does not count.”
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