I’m Confused! I Don’t Know Who To Pick… LL Female Reader Writes

Dear Ladun,

I need a little advice from your blog readers. I am a young
lady of 28 years, working and very comfortable. I met my boyfriend, in January.
Initially, i didnt like him because he wasn’t my regular type of guy that i
like to date, but as time went by, the likeness kicked in and i became fond of
him and him of me.

We were always together. Parties, weddings, friends’ houses,
you will always see us together. Then my boyfriend travelled out in May for his
masters, and wants to settle down once he is done. We communicate alot, we bb
chat, talk on the phone and skype almost everyday (sometimes twice a day).

I met this other guy in July and he is soooo into me. Spoils
me silly and stuff. He’s introduced me to his family,(his mum calls me
sometimes)initially i told him i had a bf and he was like that’s none of his
business that he is gonna win me over no matter what. We go to family functions
etc.

I love my boyfriend soooo much that I miss him all the time,
but at the same time am beginning to like this other dude, he is a nice and
humble guy and i dont wanna hurt him. Sometimes i try to bring up my boyfriend
to remind him and he takes offense in it. He is talking about settling down, i
know am not growing any younger but at the same time i am not desperate just
because my friends are getting married doesn’t mean i should rush into it, Gods
time is the best.

Just last week he was talking about planning an xmas
vacation for both of us, and my boyfriend is coming back to the country for the
xmas break. I don’t know how to tell him not to because like i said if i bring
up my boyfriend he is gonna freak. Am thinking of ending it with this new guy
but at the same time i dont wanna hurt him….(he is tooooooooo niceeeeeeee).

What should I do now?