Brand expert Kenny Brandmuse has dropped another bombshell! Badmus who told us few weeks ago about his HIV status has penned down on his
Facebook page on how he was gay and still married for 6-years before calling it
quit with his wife.
Facebook page on how he was gay and still married for 6-years before calling it
quit with his wife.
“I first told my ex-wife that I was gay, we were far from
being married. I wanted her to find other men honorably, who had a thing for
women. I never did. I ‘swear down.’ I was only obeying the popular When demand
of traditions. Now, this was my terrible mistake. No one should live their life
based on dogmas and other people’s expectations. As far as I could remember,
even though I was always dating girls, I had always preferred being with a man.
being married. I wanted her to find other men honorably, who had a thing for
women. I never did. I ‘swear down.’ I was only obeying the popular When demand
of traditions. Now, this was my terrible mistake. No one should live their life
based on dogmas and other people’s expectations. As far as I could remember,
even though I was always dating girls, I had always preferred being with a man.
I had fought it with every fiber of spirituality in me as a Pentecostal
preacher boy (find details and journeys in my book ‘THE EXODUS.’) The more I
fought my s*xual preference for men, the more I became more miserable.
Unfortunately, as erroneously believed, s*x wasn’t the problem. I had been
having s*x with women as far back as a twelve-year-old. S*xuality is whom we
are emotionally present with, not whom we are sleeping with. And oh boy, she
really tried to make me a heteros*xual. But I’m still not, sadly.
One of those pre-marriage days, while we were with our
marriage counseling team, I brought up the issue again – that I had always had
a preference for men. I wanted the Ministers to dissuade her from the marriage.
I just couldn’t put a ring on a fat big lie. My father taught me one principle:
DIE FOR YOUR OWN TRUTH, EVEN IF IT’S UNPOPULAR, BUT DON’T HARM OTHERS WITH IT.
She was so happy to tell the ministers, as quickly as she could, that my
feelings for men would all be gone, because she believed it was a childhood
disorder. I guess she meant she was going to fck my brains into
heteros*xuality. This is a mistake a lot of us make. We all want to change
people to conform to our preferences. We find it easier to play god in the
lives of people we did not make.
marriage counseling team, I brought up the issue again – that I had always had
a preference for men. I wanted the Ministers to dissuade her from the marriage.
I just couldn’t put a ring on a fat big lie. My father taught me one principle:
DIE FOR YOUR OWN TRUTH, EVEN IF IT’S UNPOPULAR, BUT DON’T HARM OTHERS WITH IT.
She was so happy to tell the ministers, as quickly as she could, that my
feelings for men would all be gone, because she believed it was a childhood
disorder. I guess she meant she was going to fck my brains into
heteros*xuality. This is a mistake a lot of us make. We all want to change
people to conform to our preferences. We find it easier to play god in the
lives of people we did not make.
After six years together, I knew I was not getting any
better. I STILL LOVED MEN. And one day, because I didn’t want to cheat on her,
I humbly asked her that we should go our separate ways. That was when all hell
broke loose. She suddenly forgot about how it all started. In court, she told
the Judge how she suddenly found out that I was gay, and how it’s against the
Law of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. In other words, she wanted me sentenced
to the new 14 years jail term served by the Nigerian government. Luckily, I was
in a civil court. Sadly, that day, I had to duck my face in shame as the crowd jeered
at me for being whom I had always been. ‘You faggot’ ‘Oh what a shameful man!’
‘homo!’ ‘Na wa o ‘ I still don’t know how I walked out of the court premises
that day. ( this case is still ongoing) What about my business.? Tell any
client in Nigeria that you are gay, and you lose their business. That’s exactly
what happened. I lost friends, businesses, sponsorships and family members. I
had to start my life all again. Applied for a new job. Get back to school.
Although my ex-wife is one of the most faithful and beautiful women in Nigeria,
she is a victim of institutionalized homophobia. Just like many people who are
reading this.
better. I STILL LOVED MEN. And one day, because I didn’t want to cheat on her,
I humbly asked her that we should go our separate ways. That was when all hell
broke loose. She suddenly forgot about how it all started. In court, she told
the Judge how she suddenly found out that I was gay, and how it’s against the
Law of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. In other words, she wanted me sentenced
to the new 14 years jail term served by the Nigerian government. Luckily, I was
in a civil court. Sadly, that day, I had to duck my face in shame as the crowd jeered
at me for being whom I had always been. ‘You faggot’ ‘Oh what a shameful man!’
‘homo!’ ‘Na wa o ‘ I still don’t know how I walked out of the court premises
that day. ( this case is still ongoing) What about my business.? Tell any
client in Nigeria that you are gay, and you lose their business. That’s exactly
what happened. I lost friends, businesses, sponsorships and family members. I
had to start my life all again. Applied for a new job. Get back to school.
Although my ex-wife is one of the most faithful and beautiful women in Nigeria,
she is a victim of institutionalized homophobia. Just like many people who are
reading this.
It will be exactly a year today, when Nigeria instituted a
law to jail people like me. What’s our offense? Because we are simply wired
differently. There are only about 5 to 10% of homos*xuals in every population
as cited by popular findings and documents. Why is a 90% dominant population
afraid of its 10%? Shouldn’t you care about us? Don’t you think it’s a lot
easier to be seen as part of the 90%? And before you throw those religious
verses on us for being wired differently, I want to leave you with my favorite
Bible verses from Romans 8:Italics mine:
law to jail people like me. What’s our offense? Because we are simply wired
differently. There are only about 5 to 10% of homos*xuals in every population
as cited by popular findings and documents. Why is a 90% dominant population
afraid of its 10%? Shouldn’t you care about us? Don’t you think it’s a lot
easier to be seen as part of the 90%? And before you throw those religious
verses on us for being wired differently, I want to leave you with my favorite
Bible verses from Romans 8:Italics mine:
That Nothing Can Separate Us from ( the universal narrative
of ) God’s Love
of ) God’s Love
31 What shall we say about such wonderful things as these?
If God is for us, who can ever be against us? 32 Since he did not spare even
his own Son ( in the popular narratives according to the Christian Faith ) but
gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else? 33 Who dares
accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us
right standing with himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? No one…
If God is for us, who can ever be against us? 32 Since he did not spare even
his own Son ( in the popular narratives according to the Christian Faith ) but
gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else? 33 Who dares
accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us
right standing with himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? No one…
38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from
God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[b] neither our
fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can
separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth
below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the
love of God that is revealed in ( in the narrative of ) Christ Jesus our
Lord.”
God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[b] neither our
fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can
separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth
below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the
love of God that is revealed in ( in the narrative of ) Christ Jesus our
Lord.”
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