Emeka Ossai Talks About Men Being Emotionally Abused In Relationships

You were talking about an initiative to be known as Men
Against Spousal Psychological and Emotional Abuse (MASPEA), kindly tell us
about that. What it is, what do you want to achieve and how do you intend to go
about it?

This issue of spousal abuse campaign started with a lot of
men irresponsibly abdicating their responsibilities to spouses and families and
resorting to sundry abuses. So appropriate laws were made to protect women and
punish men who are guilty. This noble step has itself been increasingly abused
by a lot of wayward women to gag and further punish innocent men to the point
of death. A lot of men these days are walking corpses who due to gross
psychological and emotional abuse have become empty shells waiting to drop.

Women have become increasingly aloof in a supposed union with their spouses,
while the men have become increasingly powerless to even complain, lest they
are labelled as insecure. We are saying enough is enough! Even though I do not
have this experience in my marriage, I have come across these in people who
have confided in me, those I have counselled and some others I have observed.

These days you have cases of women beating up their husbands, beheading some,
doing bodily harm or wrecking them emotionally with no one in the society
reacting. But on the other hand, mere exchange of words with a woman can result
to a lot of societal backlash. This is unacceptable! So under my leadership, we
have started a movement of Men Against Spousal Psychological and Emotional
Abuse (MASPEA). We intend to sensitize fellow men to this ravaging plight and
the society in general to wake up to this new reality.

We will encourage abused
men to speak up and relate their experiences, engage women of vintage
upbringing who do not encourage this trend and are ready to do something about
it; and organise counselling for healing and support. We will be launching our
social media pages and website soon to start the sensitisation process.