Fashion Designer Estella Ogbonna Shares Her Terrible Domestic Violence Experience

Estella Ogbonna says she’s only sharing this because she is
so pissed that a lady her parents and pastor encouraged to stay in her abusive
marriage and pray for her husband to change has finally been killed by him. She
says she’s pained, and even though a lot of people have told her to share her
own experience while her marriage lasted, she feels she would be revealing too much, but not withstanding told us a little and hopes to tell us more in the nearest future. Her words after the cut.

17 months ago, I quietly walked away from an abusive
marriage after just 8 months that felt like my whole lifetime!

I was ashamed that I ended up making the ‘wrong choice’
after all the other suitors I thought were wrong and said no to. SO, I hid away
to heal in USA…. God healed me to get back on my feet again to face my
career!

I had to summon up courage to even sketch and sew! I was
verbally, emotionally and physically abused till I lost faith in myself and
abilities.

I found God in a different way and HE led me back to my former
goals, dreams and purposes that the hellish marriage robbed me of. I have been
told my many to tell my story to encourage other women (especially the ones in
entertainment and arts industry that its best to leave the violent, insecure
man and stay alive)….but that would be laying bare my privacy too.

Maybe, some day I would tell the whole hell I went through!
From being slapped in public, to being pursued outside [late at night] in my
torn night gown and beaten, kicked and punched on the ground with demonic rage!
Or the verbal abuses??? Called ‘useless’, ‘ugly’, ‘fat’ and so many
unprintables! Why I am daring to even post this now is that I am soooooo
pisssed off at seeing another story of a young lady that was killed by her
husband. Because her parents and church told her to keep praying that he would ‘change’!!!
Now they are planning her funeral!!!! Another Mrs. Somebody DEAD!

IF HE HITS YOU, RUN!!!!!!! Just run!!!! Don’t listen to no
pastor or family member to ‘stay’ or that God hates divorce!! God hates SUICIDE
too! Staying back with a violent spouse is suicidal! You will be OK when you
walk away! And walk to safety! Cut off all connections! Stay far away! Because
when you leave a violent man, he gets even more evil! He gets petty.
vindictive, malicious, angrier because you ‘dared’ to walk away!

Statistics have shown that the number of women that died in
violent relationships/marriages are those that went back even after leaving!

IF I went through all that hell so that I can have the
experience, survive it and be able to tell YOU [in that abusive marriage or
relationship right now] to walk away…. to stay alive…..then ….all my
fears, tears, blood, pains, hope lost, hurt etc of the past were NOT in vain
for your sake! On Judgement Day, God ain’t judging Mr. and Mrs. It’s jut you
alone! Parents, please teach your boys NOT to grow up into abusers, and your
girls to know they can run back home on their feet instead of in a coffin! And
yes, love can find you again!! Never give up! One bad man cannot make you judge
all men as evil, there are good men out there! Get over your hurt and be open
to love again! I have! So can you! Shalom