I’m Sometimes Tempted To Cheat On My Husband- Omotola

Omotola had a one on one talk with Ekerete Udoh in Newyork.
And here’s how Udoh who writes for Vanguard puts it. Quite interesting.

With four beautiful children and a rock-solid marriage, s*xy
actress, Omotola Jalaide- Ekeide, is a success story, especially in an area
where some of her contemporaries and colleagues have failed miserably – the
matrimonial department .She is one of the few actresses who have successfully
combined the rigors and excruciating schedule of acting while keeping the home
front stable and happy.

She has been married to her pilot husband – Mr. Ekeide-for
over a decade, and the union is still defined by love and deep feeling of
affection. Not for her has been the usual drama of rumored infidelity and
emotional backstabbing that seem to define relationships and marriages in
Nollywood. Of all the scoops and tips on Nollywood’s shenanigans that we are
daily deluged with, none has ever been linked to Omotola.

When the s*xy actress visited New York sometime ago, and, at
a reception I had arranged for her at the TROPICAL GRILL Restaurant/Lounge
York, I informed her that I would love to have an honest and candid interview
with her, with the sole purpose of finding out what has been the source of her
martial success and the challenges she may have faced remaining true to her
values, and vows in an industry where such vows are sacrificed at the altar of
conspicuous consumption edged on by the rich and the powerful who regard
popular actresses as trophy acquisitions.

I told Omotola that my interview with her was going to be
decidedly different – it was going to dwell primarily on her personal life and
nothing else – a declaration she had enthusiastically agreed to.

“Thank God it is going to be different from all those hackneyed
and generic line of questionnaire I have been used to”, she told me as we sat
in her hotel room.

I started by asking her what had been the secret of her
success in marriage. “I have been favored by the Lord”, she began. “I am truly
blessed to have been married to one-of-a-kind husband who appreciates what I
do, encourages me to excel in my craft. Let me tell you this: I take my
marriage very seriously. If you treat your marriage with levity and careless
abandon, you will reap the reward for such bad behavior. My husband is an
angel, brought by God to my life, and it has been a blessing having him as my
husband.”

As one of the most desirable and s*xy actresses in Nollywood
and knowing how persistent men of power and influence can get in wanting to
have celebrities as trophy lovers, I asked Omotola if she had received material
things from men who ran after her. “Sure, I have received lots of goodies from
my male admirers,”she deadpanned. So what gives – what is the qui pro-quo? “Nothing”,
she replied. “I do not give anything in return. I always tell them that I am
married and would not compromise my martial vows. If after making that point
clear, they still continue to shower me with gifts, maybe believing that
something will break in the future, then I cannot help them.”

Asked if she had ever met men that she genuinely took a
liking to, and was tempted to sacrifice her marital vows, she answered:
“Absolutely. I have been tempted many times to cheat on my husband by men I
really liked. But when you think of what you stand to lose, the destruction of
all you have labored to build, when you weigh all the options, you are left to
conclude that it is not worth the trouble. I know some women will find this
somewhat objectionable, but if they want to be truthful to themselves, they
will agree with me that, as married women, we have all faced moments that I
have just described.”

Do you feel emotionally detached as a result of many years
of marriage or, put differently, has your passion for your husband cooled with
time?, I asked. “Of course, it has”, she said matter-of-factly. “Which married
woman who has been with her husband for years will, in her true state, tell you
that the feeling has remained the same as it was the first time or the first
year she met her husband? It is bound to cool off. What I recommend to women is
what I call “temporary separation.” You will make yourself unavailable to your
husband. Go somewhere – go on vacation with your friends, do something bold,
lose weight, look different and, after weeks, come home, looking drop dead
gorgeous, and I bet you, the fire of passion will be mightily rekindled and
you  will feel brand new again. I have
applied this principle in my marriage and it has worked wonders.”

Asked if the desire to rekindle her passion was responsible
for the huge weight loss that is very noticeable about her, she countered. “You
have to love yourself first. I do not see the weight loss you are talking
about, “she said smiling as if to say, “Yes, I did it and I love the way I
look.”Omotola went on to advise women that they “should learn to appreciate the
fact that you can live without anyone” and that the “world would not come
crashing on you if you did so. I think women should empower themselves while
still remaining true to their marriage and husbands. If a marriage is
stressful, emotionally destructive, I think we should be strong enough to walk
away from such damaging unions.”

Asked to confirm the widely held notion that she is
difficult to work with, she answered emphatically, “Yes, I am difficult. It
depends on who I am dealing with. If you are not focused, I bet you, I will be
your nightmare. People who are professional about what they do, have no
problems with me.”