Daily Pains Of A Single Rich Guy- Lagos Bachelor Writes

It’s funny to me when I read online that all that is
required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money.
Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will
automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I
have experienced that), it is not always the case.

I am not particularly
stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the
foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things
of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends &
colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others
face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I
am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player –
Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house
and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. undecided I have been told
so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship
because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. sad My
ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl,
chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually
ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a
girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually
impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake,
what does my financial status has to do with my relationship lifeI tire o. From
that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many
rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we
call them runs girls. angry They pretend to like you but all they are
interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not
count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking
me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet
to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for
phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so
hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all
girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who
have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find
out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the
girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that
you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend
lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’ cry

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich
guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic,
isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they
want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer
pretence. embarassed They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may
sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that
they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like
a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during
the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling
carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really
loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around
because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a
choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.
embarassed

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You
heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted
girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become.
You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or
park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies
who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions
where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where
everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the
real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you
meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly
worse-off too and not much better. Sigh…. cry

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would
easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you.
While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k
on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your
class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go
below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a
lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum
standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with
the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap. cool

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your
financial strength sad – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons.
Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend
to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our
money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is
it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends
around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their
girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find
street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them
names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc.
All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm angry

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy
true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain
true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful
woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich,
comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a
personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady
unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently.
I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well
say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.